The Person Who Shows Up
I am not my thoughts. I am the person who shows up. I am the person who cuddles my boys every morning as they slide into my bed, not the voice in my head that begs me to go back to sleep. I [...]
Worry Yourself Sick – Or Not
I recently said to my son, “better to have a bird in the hand than two in the bush.” He looked at me like I was a lunatic; I then followed with an explanation of the 16th century proverb—warning against taking unnecessary risks.Most of [...]
How do I help her?
Almost always when I share my story—when I talk of rape, heroin and pain; when they see me smiling, open, alive and unashamed—they find a way, a time, a quiet moment and with big, hurt eyes full of tears they reach for me, whispering, [...]
As I kissed my son goodbye…
This morning as my son left for school and I kissed him goodbye; he made a nasty remark under his breath about his older brother. This from my child who is kind-hearted and deeply empathetic; it was very out of character for him, but [...]
Shut up. You’ll be amazed what happens
Silence around other people can be very uncomfortable. It’s fine if we have something to do, like stare at the numbers in an elevator or fiddle with our phones, but if we are in a conversation or small group and everything goes quiet, or [...]
Your Story
Your story matters, and it also doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter because it's done and cannot be changed. No matter how much effort you put into rewriting the story in your mind, to yourself and to anyone who will listen—it will not change. It [...]
Ideas on handling disappointment and rising again
Being kind, charming and generous is easy for most of us when life is good. If time is abundant and there is plenty of money – if we’re loved, connected and have a purpose, most of us can bring our A game. Not so [...]
Five times you need to truly believe in yourself and how.
When You Sense Danger. Trust your instincts! We use 5% of our brain consciously, 95% is subconscious and that’s not even including the trillions of cells we have in our body that are connected and have a nervous system. Your body is wise—it has [...]
We can stand in the storm of anything
The wind blows, she stands firm as she has nothing to hide. Waves crash and the torment howls about her. It cannot touch her; she knows who she is. Words hurled to control her, jealousy to subvert her. She does not drop her gaze, [...]
How do you feel about money?
Money doesn’t play favourites, how can it? It has no intention or ambition. It doesn’t choose who it hangs out with based on their creed or character. Money shows up where value is created. Don’t get value confused with “good’ value; money has no [...]